I once knew, and almost dated, a woman who was in recovery (from alcohol, IIRC) who told me about The Romantic Myth.
She recited it so quickly… I’ve tried to find it in print… there is so much of it that I don’t remember…
But it starts with “There is one person somewhere in this world who is your soulmate” and ends with “and you will both die at the same time in each other’s arms.”
Letting go of that myth was one of the most difficult parts of my own journey.
Ha! Young (underdeveloped) minds thrive on fantasy and wishful thinking. It’s hard growing into our adulthood, and surrendering our beliefs in the horseshit we were brainwashed with at a time in life when we were naive and gullible.
Reality sucks sometimes, but it can also feel gratifying and rewarding. All addicts have BPD traits, due to emotional dissociation from an early time when they started using a means to escape their inner pain. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, with regard to “almost” dating that female!
I believe in soul mates, I don't believe in your one and only. With seven billion people on this planet, it's absurd to believe you could be limited to connecting to only one.
No, I don’t wish I knew this earlier. I don’t wish for anything because I have absolute faith that God provides exactly what we need at the perfect time.
Depression, anxiety, OCD & other Cluster A-C disorders, anger, rage, and resentment are caused by insecurity. I used to think that narcissism had no cure, but now I see that the cure is like a light switch. Find the switch, and all BPD / NPD behaviors cease. The switch is the same for all people and is rather simple.
Regarding soul mates - they don’t matter. When we’ve flipped the switch back to absolute faith, we discover that the only important relationship is the one with God. From there, how we treat ourselves and others can be described as graceful and sincere. You might say everyone’s soul mate is God.
This is why Trump can do what he does at 80 years old. He has a better relationship with God than most people. The people who hate Trump are insecure. Politicians use the news to trick insecure people into believing lies, furthering their confusion and inciting hatred. They believe in evil because they doubt the omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent Inventor of Light.
Life is about growth toward Heaven, always in our prime and at our peak; and I thank you for being part of this enlightening process. Now, it’s time to realize that 96% of people are Cluster B because of one simple reason. It’s not because of their mommy issues or because they’re bad seeds. Narcissists are simply at odds with God.
Of course, the majority of USAers are at odds with God. Look at all of the atheists, Jews, Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Scientologists, communists, vegans, astrologists, Buddhists… it’s no wonder a sober guy like Trump felt called to save the country.
Of course, Trump is not completely faithful; but he’s closer than most.
LOL... well, that's a much more vast and comprehensive response than I usually elicit, and you're entitled to your beliefs about narcissists and borderlines, however nobody who grew up without loving, nurturing, supportive parents (specifically mothers) can completely escape building emotional defenses and self-worth injuries that lay the groundwork for personality disorder traits. AND, to a small child, the parent IS a god. If trust cannot be established with the maternal object during the earliest part of that child's existence, no trust in others (including God) can EVER be established. :~)
It’s not a belief. It’s a law of physics. Remove doubt from a person (they weren’t born with it), and the behaviors that describe Cluster A-C disorders instantly vanish. You’ve written about our ability to turn anxiety off like a light switch - same phenomenon here.
The issue is that God wanted us to be susceptible to doubt. Only when we enter Heaven do we experience absolute, permanent doubtlessness. Until then, we’re born like animals with no doubt (and no faith); and, whereas the animals remain blissfully ignorant and faithless, humans develop further.
Our propensity for doubt / anti-faith is what leads to disordered behavior - not mommy or daddy, nor the priests or other adults who abuse us early in life. Truth is, even the kids raised by loving, nurturing, supportive parents are susceptible to doubt. However, their faith in life itself is higher than those who were abused and neglected.
To believe that these kids are broken and cannot fully heal in record time is to perpetuate an attitude of doubt. As long as you continue believing this, your patients won’t improve. This is why you regularly address the difficulty of helping Cluster Bs.
They’re not incurable, but they’ll never escape their patterns of violence until their doubt is surgically removed from their minds. You are good at identifying Cluster B behavior, but your methods don’t work on the disordered because you don’t focus on eliminating doubt.
Your methods can assist people who have PTSD from Cluster B villains, but even they would be mindfully unaffected by Cluster B abuse if they learned how to eliminate doubt on the spot. Looking at it that way, these villains are actually God working through them to enlighten the so-called victims.
No, children don’t think their parents are God. They don’t even have the brain capacity to grasp the concept of God. That’s why kids are so innocent - they’re barely smarter than a dog or cat. By age 5, the child begins to question life, but they’re still incapable of depression.
Depression is impossible before age 3 and is extremely rare from 3-7. What this means is children are also incapable of faith & doubt until they get into second grade, which of course is when the disorders begin. Look at all the bullies in elementary school. Yes, what I’m saying is that doubt is the cause of depression / mania; and all bullies are “bipolar” / narcissistic due to doubt.
Instead of labeling kids and trying to force behavior optimization, probe the child’s thoughts. What are they afraid of? What bothers them? The answers will always provide an opportunity to educate the child on the perfection of life itself.
Of course, how often does an adult tell a kid that the world is perfect and therefore doubt is completely stupid? Pretty much never. Why? Because most adults weren’t taught to think big picture. Ask an adult where God came from, and they’ll often if not always say, “get out of my face.” Or, they’ll look at you as if they’ve never thought about it before.
I recall asking a former Rutgers graduate professor in government ethics who he think created God. He winced, shook his head and told me I need to make some friends. Of course, this same guy drove his wife’s son so crazy that he moved his family away without notice. Yes, the professor is one of those morons who won’t even say the word “Trump.” He’s a typical doubtful narcissist - and there’s tens of millions like him in the USA alone.
To be clear, the son moved his wife and their child 1,000 miles away from his mother and her bigoted, stupid, doubtful husband. Without notice! Imagine the pain the wife feels. Her son and grandchild disappear overnight after living next door for years - all because of doubt.
For whatever reason, few people take the time to consider the perfection of life and the rational impossibility of something creating God. How do you create something from nothing? When you discover the seeming impossibility of that concept, you acquire divine humility.
With divine humility, nothing can bother us, for we know that we are also divinely ignorant. By acknowledging our ignorance with humility, we can begin to develop a loving, nurturing, supportive relationship with God.
I once knew, and almost dated, a woman who was in recovery (from alcohol, IIRC) who told me about The Romantic Myth.
She recited it so quickly… I’ve tried to find it in print… there is so much of it that I don’t remember…
But it starts with “There is one person somewhere in this world who is your soulmate” and ends with “and you will both die at the same time in each other’s arms.”
Letting go of that myth was one of the most difficult parts of my own journey.
Ha! Young (underdeveloped) minds thrive on fantasy and wishful thinking. It’s hard growing into our adulthood, and surrendering our beliefs in the horseshit we were brainwashed with at a time in life when we were naive and gullible.
Reality sucks sometimes, but it can also feel gratifying and rewarding. All addicts have BPD traits, due to emotional dissociation from an early time when they started using a means to escape their inner pain. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, with regard to “almost” dating that female!
I believe in soul mates, I don't believe in your one and only. With seven billion people on this planet, it's absurd to believe you could be limited to connecting to only one.
Agreed.
No, I don’t wish I knew this earlier. I don’t wish for anything because I have absolute faith that God provides exactly what we need at the perfect time.
Depression, anxiety, OCD & other Cluster A-C disorders, anger, rage, and resentment are caused by insecurity. I used to think that narcissism had no cure, but now I see that the cure is like a light switch. Find the switch, and all BPD / NPD behaviors cease. The switch is the same for all people and is rather simple.
Regarding soul mates - they don’t matter. When we’ve flipped the switch back to absolute faith, we discover that the only important relationship is the one with God. From there, how we treat ourselves and others can be described as graceful and sincere. You might say everyone’s soul mate is God.
This is why Trump can do what he does at 80 years old. He has a better relationship with God than most people. The people who hate Trump are insecure. Politicians use the news to trick insecure people into believing lies, furthering their confusion and inciting hatred. They believe in evil because they doubt the omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent Inventor of Light.
Life is about growth toward Heaven, always in our prime and at our peak; and I thank you for being part of this enlightening process. Now, it’s time to realize that 96% of people are Cluster B because of one simple reason. It’s not because of their mommy issues or because they’re bad seeds. Narcissists are simply at odds with God.
Of course, the majority of USAers are at odds with God. Look at all of the atheists, Jews, Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Scientologists, communists, vegans, astrologists, Buddhists… it’s no wonder a sober guy like Trump felt called to save the country.
Of course, Trump is not completely faithful; but he’s closer than most.
LOL... well, that's a much more vast and comprehensive response than I usually elicit, and you're entitled to your beliefs about narcissists and borderlines, however nobody who grew up without loving, nurturing, supportive parents (specifically mothers) can completely escape building emotional defenses and self-worth injuries that lay the groundwork for personality disorder traits. AND, to a small child, the parent IS a god. If trust cannot be established with the maternal object during the earliest part of that child's existence, no trust in others (including God) can EVER be established. :~)
It’s not a belief. It’s a law of physics. Remove doubt from a person (they weren’t born with it), and the behaviors that describe Cluster A-C disorders instantly vanish. You’ve written about our ability to turn anxiety off like a light switch - same phenomenon here.
The issue is that God wanted us to be susceptible to doubt. Only when we enter Heaven do we experience absolute, permanent doubtlessness. Until then, we’re born like animals with no doubt (and no faith); and, whereas the animals remain blissfully ignorant and faithless, humans develop further.
Our propensity for doubt / anti-faith is what leads to disordered behavior - not mommy or daddy, nor the priests or other adults who abuse us early in life. Truth is, even the kids raised by loving, nurturing, supportive parents are susceptible to doubt. However, their faith in life itself is higher than those who were abused and neglected.
To believe that these kids are broken and cannot fully heal in record time is to perpetuate an attitude of doubt. As long as you continue believing this, your patients won’t improve. This is why you regularly address the difficulty of helping Cluster Bs.
They’re not incurable, but they’ll never escape their patterns of violence until their doubt is surgically removed from their minds. You are good at identifying Cluster B behavior, but your methods don’t work on the disordered because you don’t focus on eliminating doubt.
Your methods can assist people who have PTSD from Cluster B villains, but even they would be mindfully unaffected by Cluster B abuse if they learned how to eliminate doubt on the spot. Looking at it that way, these villains are actually God working through them to enlighten the so-called victims.
No, children don’t think their parents are God. They don’t even have the brain capacity to grasp the concept of God. That’s why kids are so innocent - they’re barely smarter than a dog or cat. By age 5, the child begins to question life, but they’re still incapable of depression.
Depression is impossible before age 3 and is extremely rare from 3-7. What this means is children are also incapable of faith & doubt until they get into second grade, which of course is when the disorders begin. Look at all the bullies in elementary school. Yes, what I’m saying is that doubt is the cause of depression / mania; and all bullies are “bipolar” / narcissistic due to doubt.
Instead of labeling kids and trying to force behavior optimization, probe the child’s thoughts. What are they afraid of? What bothers them? The answers will always provide an opportunity to educate the child on the perfection of life itself.
Of course, how often does an adult tell a kid that the world is perfect and therefore doubt is completely stupid? Pretty much never. Why? Because most adults weren’t taught to think big picture. Ask an adult where God came from, and they’ll often if not always say, “get out of my face.” Or, they’ll look at you as if they’ve never thought about it before.
I recall asking a former Rutgers graduate professor in government ethics who he think created God. He winced, shook his head and told me I need to make some friends. Of course, this same guy drove his wife’s son so crazy that he moved his family away without notice. Yes, the professor is one of those morons who won’t even say the word “Trump.” He’s a typical doubtful narcissist - and there’s tens of millions like him in the USA alone.
To be clear, the son moved his wife and their child 1,000 miles away from his mother and her bigoted, stupid, doubtful husband. Without notice! Imagine the pain the wife feels. Her son and grandchild disappear overnight after living next door for years - all because of doubt.
For whatever reason, few people take the time to consider the perfection of life and the rational impossibility of something creating God. How do you create something from nothing? When you discover the seeming impossibility of that concept, you acquire divine humility.
With divine humility, nothing can bother us, for we know that we are also divinely ignorant. By acknowledging our ignorance with humility, we can begin to develop a loving, nurturing, supportive relationship with God.